Soul Plans and Estrangement

This is our monthly column on Soul Plans by Alicia Young. Alicia had a life-changing experience where she was invited to watch the pre-life planning session of a friend’s son, which she later wrote about in her book Visit from Heaven: A Soul’s Message of Love, Loss & Family. Since then she has spoken around the world both privately and to groups in order to help pass on what she learned about why our souls may choose some of our most difficult experiences as opportunities to learn and grow. Each month she answers questions about how our soul’s plan intersects with the challenges and experiences of being human.

My sister passed in an accident. At the time, we hadn’t been spoken for two years. I took it hard, and I drank too much for a while. Is she still angry with me? 

I get this question a lot, and it’s heartbreaking because by the time it’s raised, you have already suffered so much. I hope this brings a measure of comfort: when we imagine loved smarting over an argument or a deeper divide, we’re attaching a human emotion to the spirit world. Your sister exists in the world of the absolute, where love, peace and joy exist unopposed. She can no longer feel other human emotions, nor does she have any need for them. She draws no benefit from you punishing yourself, and she wishes only happiness for you. 

When you return to the Other Side, you will each take off your masks and more fully understand the roles you played in each other’s lives and learning. You will acknowledge the magnificence of your souls, and your bravery in coming here to experience life on earth.  You were each a vehicle by which the other grew spiritually. Without coming here and interacting as we do, we would know only the theory of relationships, not the practice. It’s the difference between reading a parenting book, and actually having a child (typed with a smile).

Photo by Isabella and Zsa Fischer

Can souls bi-locate? 

I believe they can—and do. Many metaphysical authors address this more extensively and eloquently, but allow me to offer some simple thoughts. I believe that your individual soul is not only a spark of the divine, but a spark of your larger Oversoul on the Other Side. 

I believe that when we sleep, we astral travel back to the spirit realm, visiting loved ones and conferring with our angels and spirit guides. This might sound like our souls “fragment”, but I imagine it a little more like a rubber band that stretches far from its base (during our awake state) and returns Home in the sleep state, in a snap.

Our souls are simply not bound by physical laws of time and distance. They are genuinely limitless. I’m sure you’re aware there are schools of thought that at any given time, there are multiple versions of us existing in parallel universes. I’ve not had direct experience of that, but I stay open to the possibility. To dismiss it outright would seem premature to me. My trip to the Other Side gave me astonishing insights which I felt compelled to share, but it also showed me the sheer vastness of the Universe. How could I claim to be across every corner of its expanse?

Photo by Farrinni

I’m the black sheep in a family of over-achievers. I’m no slouch, and I have a good career, but they are seriously next level. Several have multiple PhDs. Another plays national and international-level sports. Our folks retired and started volunteering more. Now, their community awards and commendations adorn the walls and fill the cabinets. They love me, but I can’t shake the feeling that they think less of me for being content. I basically like who I am. I wonder sometimes if I’ll be sidelined in the will, for letting the team down.

A sense of belonging is a fundamental human desire, so naturally you’re going to feel this “otherness” from your family. Imagine that you’re together on the Other Side. You have already chosen each other and agreed to be a family unit. There is still some overarching dynamics to clarify:

PARENTS: One of us will grow up in a family that strongly values education. It will be tied to self-worth. The other will grow up in modest circumstances, but will see education as the way out. We will try to maintain balance in how we interact with each of you. You will be loved, no doubt, but we might struggle not to favor those children who shine academically. We will see them as reflections of ourselves; we are building in an ego challenge in this regard.  We will value the external indicators of success: diplomas, medals, trophies.

SIBLINGS: We will explore different avenues to acclaim. Some of us will mimic you (Mom and Dad) with our academic pursuits. One of us will also crave sporting dominance and physical prowess, eager to show gifts beyond intellect. We will seek this same drive in our partners.

YOU: I am not feeling drawn to this level of academic excellence. I will go to college, but I will likely not return to pursue advanced degrees. I will be attracted to engineering or architecture. I will keep up on industry developments, but I will grow more on the job than in the classroom. I will sense your disappointment to not engage in competition. I will either chafe against that and resent you, or I will find a different way to relate to each of you, beyond test scores and GPAs. I will value my free time and will place little worth on accolades.

This post is part of our series of blogs on soul plans by Alicia Young. You can read her previous posts HERE.

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Alicia Young is an Australian journalist and author who met her guardian angel at age three. Her book Visit from Heaven: A Soul’s Message of Love, Loss & Family recounts a transformative experience in which she met the soul of a little boy on the Other Side. Today, she speaks and consults on Soul Plans around the world, both privately and to groups (often virtually). This column does not seek to substitute professional support.